What'd You Just Say?!

When it comes to communication of the sexes, I noticed that men and women have their very own special ways of speaking and getting their point across. You can't really tell what your own style of communicating is until you really analyze it and pay attention. It just comes out naturally! It is much easier to see the differences between men and women if you watch them in conversation together, ESPECIALLY when they are in a relationship. Relationships have their ups and downs and ins and outs and one of the most important things to two lovers would have to be communication. Without it, how would the couple get anywhere? Have you ever seen a couple fight before? It can be pretty entertaining if you really pay attention to the facial expressions, tone, pitch, and other visible expressions of both parties. I noticed that women have different ways of expressing that they are angry through the pitch of their voice and tone. Some women have that "I'm pretending like I'm happy, but there is definitely something wrong with me and you have 10 minutes to figure it out" kind of expression where they speak with a higher pitch, a forced cheerful tone that almost sounds pained, and they have a huge obviously fake smile on their face. Sometimes you can tell they are saying "I can't believe what you don't know what you did, you are so naive," when their eyes are opened a little wider than normal their body is leaning farther toward their significant other, they are speaking with a high pitched voice as if talking to someone significantly younger, and they are speaking slowly using easy to understand words as if breaking down something to make it easier for the other party to understand and almost demeaning them. Some women convey they are angry merely by doing the normal scrunch of the eyebrows, speaking with a lower pitch, and speaking quickly letting the other party know that they are serious about the matter at hand.

I also noticed that women have a distinct way of letting a member of the opposite sex know that she is interested. Usually she has a smirk, or a big smile on her face, she tends to make the pitch of her voice a little more squeaky than normal (I could not think of any other technical word), she tends to make a lot of eye contact, and she tends to think everything is that much funnier then it had been before by getting a case of the giggles every couple of minutes. This is just what I have noticed through observing my friends and talking to some of my male friends about what they have observed. I recently even had a conversation with my boyfriend, and he helped me realize that I also do some of these examples. Being a women, I can't really say why we express ourselves in this way, it just comes naturally to us. But, that's enough about women, lets look at the way men express themselves.

I'm just going to stick with the two that I mentioned above. How they express themselves when they are angry and when they find themselves in a situation where they are interested in a women. When men are angry I've noticed that they don't show emotion as much as women. I'm not sure if it's the lack of estrogen and that extra shot of testosterone, but they tend to hide their emotions if they are sad or upset about something. Some men do the exact opposite and once you get it out of them, it doesn't take a lot of thinking to be able to tell that they are angry. A lot of men don't talk a whole lot when they are angry, they tend to keep to themselves, anything said comes out in short forced sentences, their faces are very somber, and their pitch is a lot lower, and their tone is very short and stuccato. A lot of men use their body language to show they are angry by turning their body in a different direction while they are speaking to the other party, speaking in a loud higher pitch, their face is more scrunched then normal, and they tend to shake their head from left to right numerous times. When they are trying to pick up women I noticed, if they are confident, they are a little braver. They say things that they think might be funny, they speak with a matter of factly tone, and make a lot of eye contact. Their voice has a higher pitch to it to show they are happy and enjoying themselves also. If they are not confident I notice they fidget a lot with their hands and they are constantly doing something while talking to the girl. They tend to avert their eyes a lot, maybe looking around at different things, they speak with a quiet pitch, but their tone is also a little higher than normal, but their body is facing the girl they are most interested in.

These aren't all of the ways men and women express themselves, but these are the most drastic differences that I have caught on to between the sexes. I've only given examples of expressions when angry and when in a flirtatious environment because I think this is when the differences in communicating and expressing between the genders are the most apparent. Take some times in the next day or two to observe and I think you'll notice the same things I did. Maybe you'll be able to catch yourself doing some of these things.;)